My daughter, Chloe, 8 years old, tomboy.
Was asked to be a flowergirl in my cousins wedding.
Uh-oh. Dilemna. Chloe hasn't worn a dress since first grade.
Hmmm. After some talking, and thinking, and contemplating, she said YES.
Here's how it went down. They asked, and said she could think about it. They told her she didn't have to do it, they had a back-up if she said no, but that she was their first choice. They also told her the dress will either be blue (good) or pink (bad) AND...that she got to wear converse with the dress! How cute! Also, she was told that she could change for the reception, which she liked.
I had my talks with Chloe about this as well. I didn't want to pressure her to say yes, but I wanted her to be really confident in whatever decision she made. Of course I wanted her to do it, but not to the point where she would be unhappy about it. So, I told her that it was a really great opputunity and it was honor that they asked her. I told her she's getting older and may not have the chance again. I told her how she would remember this for her whole life. On the other hand I reminded her that if she chose to do it, she would have to wear the dress, have pretty hair, and NOT COMPLAIN. I said, "This really is not about you after all. It's Kate and Ian's special day, and it's your job to help make that happen." I was quite surprised that she said yes, but I am happy that she did. The wedding is on April Fool's Day....I know, right? I'll be sure and let you know how it goes.
I'm hoping this will be the turning point from my tomboy back to my little princess. I won't hold my breath though, and I'm sure the dresses and cute girly clothes will come when she's old enough to want to go to the mall on her own...great. Until then, I'll be happy with her wanting to just be one of the boys instead of wanting to impress them :)
I do feel like she is coming around. This morning she wore the shirt with the sparkley heart without TOO much protest, and we paired it with really cute gray boots from Old Navy. She was super sassy and stylish. If only she would let me do something with that hair! I pick my battles wisely though, so I'll shut up now!